Soi Qualia

the effect of training/studying NLP for me

2008-06-03T14:05:00.001+07:00

atas permintaan Pak Hing... aku mencoba merumuskan apa yang aku rasakan/pikirkan tentang NLP dan walaupun masih global, belum bisa spesifik... i guess... i hope somehow it will inspire people to have interest in studying NLP too like me... :D

the effect of training/studying NLP for me

sebelum aku ikut training NLP, aku baru saja selesai membaca buku "A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose" oleh Eckhart Tolle... dan banyak hal yang aku serap dari buku itu dan ingin aku terapkan dalam kehidupan

lalu dengan keyakinan bahwa NLP hanya akan membawa manfaat kebaikan, aku berusaha untuk semaksimal mungkin memberi perhatian terhadap apapun yang akan diberikan dalam training, berjanji to put aside any judgemental opinion to anything in the training, baik terhadap trainernya [Pak Hing], anggota trainee yang lain, suasana training, ilmu NLPnya sendiri atau apapun selama training itu dan hanya akan memilah2 yang sesuai atau tidak dengan diri sendiri, nanti setelah training berakhir.

tujuan awal aku untuk ikut training NLP adalah untuk mendapatkan modal dalam memulai usaha sendiri, yang berarti pemasukan [income] tambahan di bidang terapi dan konseling, dan terutama juga untuk dimanfaatkan pada diri sendiri, with the ultimate hope of opening way for self enlightenment.

walaupun ada kecemasan yang dicoba untuk dikesampingkan atau dihilangkan, yaitu tentang ketidakmampuan untuk membantu orang lain karena merasa ada hal di dalam diri sendiri berupa "masalah" yang belum terpecahkan.
i feel that i should deal with that first, then i could be able to help someone else.

hari-hari terakhir training terasa cukup berat, karena rasanya kepala ini penuh dan sulit untuk bisa mencerna apa yang didapat pada saat itu, ditambah kecemasan harus bertemu dengan real people with their real problems.
terus terang i wasnt be able to cope my worry, karena aku menyerahkan tanggung jawab kepada partner (Pak Willy), pasangan partner yang telah ditentukan oleh Pak Hing, yang walaupun mungkin sampai dengan hari ini, saat itu adalah kesempatan satu2nya untuk aku ketemu dengan 'klien'.

setelah selesai training... walaupun sudah merasa mendapat 'pencerahan-pencerahan' dari berbagai aspek... :) aku masih terus mempertanyakan sebenernya apa sih yang aku dapet? aku juga merasa hanya mendapat sedikit manfaat saja...

namun dengan tetap berkeyakinan bahwa hanya manfaat positif yang aku dapat dari NLP, aku mulai membenahi segala macam yang berseliweran di dalam kepala... di dalam pikiran... i felt that i was overly thinking... kemudian sedikit demi sedikit mulai dapat diatasi setelah memulai membaca "The Power of Now: A guide to spiritual enlightenment" (masih oleh pengarang yang sama) dan mendapat titik terang dari apa yang selama ini aku pertanyakan...

manfaat positif yang jelas aku rasakan dari NLP adalah kemudahan dalam mencerna sesuatu, kemudahan untuk menerima keadaan atau situasi dan kemudahan untuk mencari solusi dari suatu masalah...

dan dengan menggabungkan apa yang disampaikan di "The Power of Now" dengan presuposisi NLP, aku ngerasa akan lebih mudah untuk bisa menerima teori tersebut dan mempraktekkannya... karena aku merasa presuposisi NLP-lah yang menjadi dasar untuk pembentukan pola pikir sejalan dengan apa yang disampaikan di "The Power of Now"...

sampai sekarang aku belum mendapat 'klien' yang bisa dijadikan tempat untuk mempraktekkan terapi-terapi NLP, karena mungkin seperti yang disampaikan oleh Pak Teddy di salah satu pembincangan di milis NLP Indonesia, mungkin selama kita secara pribadi merasa belum siap maka klien belum akan muncul... :D

mungkin tentang klien ada atau tidak, akan terselesaikan dengan berjalannya waktu... untuk sekarang yang penting adalah penggunaan NLP itu sendiri di setiap aspek kehidupanku...

contoh untuk aplikasi NLP sehubungan dengan "The Power of Now"
p.126-127

The Art of Listening

When listening to another person, don't just listen with your mind, listen with your whole body. Feel the energy field of your inner body as you listen. That takes attention away from thinking and creates a still space that enables you to truly listen without the mind interfering. You are giving the other person space - space to be. It is the most precious gift tiy can give. Most people don't know how to listen because the major part of their attention is take up by thinking. They pay more attention to that than to what the other person is saying, and none at all to what really matters: the Being of the other person underneath the words and the mind. Of course, you cannot feel someone else's being except through your own.

setelah baca paragraf ini langsung keinget, pesan berulang dari Pak Hing... "Matching - Mirroring"... [hehehe... waktu training Pak Hing "menghantui" kami dengan 2 kata ini... :D ] dan Being disini kalau pada saat training diterjemahkan sebagai sub-conscious, bahwa dalam berkomunikasi dengan orang lain kita tidak hanya berkomunikasi secara conscious tetapi juga secara sub-conscious...

inilah salah satu contoh NLP sangat berguna dalam self enrichment yang sedang aku lakukan... ^^

jadi walaupun sampai sekarang belum bisa mempraktekkan NLP kepada orang lain... dan walaupun aku merasa bahwa masih banyak yang harus aku pelajari, tapi sudah mulai terasa terhadap diri sendiri... setelah belajar NLP, aku menjadi lebih mudah untuk mengkondisikan pikiran... dan dari pikiran, pengkondisian suasana hati juga akan jadi lebih mudah...
dan sekarang tujuan yang lebih ingin dicapai [dibandingkan dengan mempraktekkan NLP kepada orang lain] adalah mempraktekkan NLP untuk diri sendiri, untuk mempercepat [dan lebih sering :) ] pencapaian tujuan-tujuan pribadi, yang paling ingin dicapai sekarang adalah segera memulai menulis buku... tentang apa memang belum kepikiran, tapi aku yakin akan tercapai dalam waktu dekat, dibantu oleh NLP :D

tapi kami [aku dan Tomi (sesama NLPers)] tetap melakukan soft selling... dan iklan kecil2an lewat blog yang kami buat atas nama berdua di http://soiqualia.blogspot.com

i believe that there are always ways to implement NLP's methods in life for a better quality of life...

ps. quote diatas diambil dari buku "The Power of Now: A guide to spiritual enlightenment" oleh Eckhart Tolle, 2004, Namaste Publishing Vancouver, B.C. Canada and New World Library, Novato, California. [http://www.eckharttolle.com/]
pps. tulisan ini kemungkinan akan terus dibahas di blog kami http://soiqualia.blogspot.com dan/atau di blog pribadiku http://de2via.tumblr.com

FAQs about NLP

2008-06-02T15:35:00.002+07:00

These are answers from Richard Bandler.

1. What is NLP ?

    Neuro-Linguistic Programming is "The Study of the Structure of Subjective Experience and what can be calculated from it."

    (For a more colorful explanation see What is NLP? and What is NLP II?.)

2. What is NLP technology?

    NLP is based on finding out what works and formalizing it. In order to formalize patterns I utilized everything from linguistics to holography. I didn't just elicit peoples' strategies since when I started out there weren't any strategies, yet. I invented them. Strategies are a model. A strategy is just that, a strategy.

    I think it is important for people to make a distinction between a model and a technique.

    A model (like Strategies, Submodalities, Anchoring, Transderivational Search, Chaining States, the Meta Model , Meta Programs, Semantic Primes, Semantic Density, etc.) will allow you to create new techniques. The techniques generated from these models are techniques, nothing more. When people discover what someone they consider to be a genius or expert does inside their head in order to perform a task exceptionally well using the models of NLP , what they've discovered is not a new model. It is a strategy. The sequencing of various aspects of the models that constitute NLP in order to change someone's internal representations is called a technique.

    A model is a formal representation of behavior that allows prediction. Models are most commonly used in physics, e.g., in order to predict the rate of distribution of one liquid within another as well as how much movement the added liquid will have if poured from 2 inches above a beaker with a 2 inch diameter.

    The models that constitute NLP are all formal models based on mathematical, logical principles such as predicate calculus and the mathematical equations underlying holography. Furthermore, all of these models are generative, e.g., when challenging one Meta Model distinction, the answer will always be a surface structure containing further Meta-Model distinctions. They are also recursive, i.e., the model can be applied to itself, e.g., you can use the Milton Model in order to define and utilize the distinctions described in The Hypnotic Patterns of Milton H. Erickson, M.D., Vol. 1 in order to understand how the book uses the principles described therein in order to teach them, i.e. it defines itself.

    These distinctions will help people understand the difference between what a model and a technique is.

3. How are the NLP building blocks such as calibration techniques, patterns in the language someone uses, predicates and Meta Model , eye movements and Submodalities, other analytical models such as Logical levels, Meta-programs, perceptual positions, timeframes, etc. used to observe experts?

    These tools were not developed in order to observe experts. They were discovered by observing experts. They were developed in order to further evolve human consciousness to the point that people could replicate skills and have deliberate control over their own consciousness. Nothing in NLP is analytical. It is all designed to be applied. If you do not know how to apply something that you learn as "NLP " then, it is either not NLP or you have a bad teacher. I think the best example of this misunderstanding is Meta-Programs. I've had people tell me that someone is a visual who sorts towards. That can't be true because if you ask a person to make a picture of themselves brushing their teeth with a toothbrush they just wiped their behind with, they probably won't move towards that. Most of you would probably say, "Yuck!" and move away from doing that. (If you behave in the previously described manner. STOP IT! It's not a good idea.)

    Meta Programs describe how people sort through multiple generalizations. As such, they will tell you what lies inside and what lies outside of someone's generalizations about things like doors. When someone says, "Stupid door!", that gives you a pretty good idea about what lies outside their generalizations about what doors "are". If you then ask them how they know the door is "stupid", they'll give you an answer that will identify their "sorting style", i.e., "There's no knob," meaning that it can only be a not-stupid-door if it has a knob. If what they want is to be able to open more kinds of doors, then you have to teach them to sort for things other than just a knob in order to identify a door. That's how Meta-Programs work. They don't just describe someone diagnostically. They give you something to do.

    NLP consists of models. By applying these models one can generate techniques. The models are patterns. As such, they will be true 100% of the time. That is why statistics don't apply.

4. What can I do with NLP ?

    There are many areas in which NLP has been utilized. Whatever your profession is, you can use NLP to build on whatever it is you are already doing.

5. What are typical NLP applications?

    Collapsing Anchors, Visual Squash, 6-step Reframing, V/K dissociation, Change Personal History, Belief Change, Reimprint (all which are sometimes called NLP ), are some of the techniques that were derived from applying the models.

6. Isn't NLP mainly used for therapy and that's where the procedures came from?

    I have never once called anything I do a "procedure". I call them techniques or exercises. It's important to emphasize that NLP is an educational tool, not a form of therapy. We don't do therapy. We teach people some things about how their brains function and they use this information in order to change.

7. What are the best products and applications for business?

    I have no idea what some of these products are. Once again, I think it is important for people to understand the distinction between a model and a technique. To use "products" also seems slightly misleading as I personally have used more of these simple things in business environments. I have used everything from strategies and anchoring to the Meta Model and Milton Model. Understanding board meetings seems to me to be the same as understanding how a family functions. I've done things like change where people sit at a table and change the outcome of the meeting.

8. What about enhancing creativity?

    I think the more you want to become more and more creative you have to not only elicit other peoples' (plural) strategies and replicate them yourself, but also modify others' strategies and have a strategy that creates new creativity strategies based on as many wonderful states as you can design for yourself. Therefore, in a way, the entire field of NLP is a creative tool, because I wanted to create something new.

9. What about learning strategies?

    Which learning strategies are useful in which contexts? What if we design new, more intense states and used those as the basis upon which we learn? All the models and techniques can be of use in many areas or professions. None of these areas are different from one another once you denominalize the words, i.e. "therapy, creativity, learning, business."

10. The basic NLP Presuppositions are:

    The NLP Presuppositions can be found on the NLP Presuppositions page. [http://www.purenlp.com/nlpresp.htm]

11. What is DHE ?

    See "What is DHE?" [http://www.purenlp.com/whatsdhe.htm]

12. What is the best progression for learning NLP ; is it to attend a Practitioner program, then a Master Practitioner , then a Trainer?

    None of these are the only way to learn NLP nor necessarily the best for any one person. The learning strategy they engage in will determine how they learn, but as we know, those aren't set in stone.

    It isn't necessary that people go in any particular order. I know that some people make you do them in that order, but they are, as I originally designed them, different courses which cover different material and I know that learning doesn't come in levels, because, if it did, you would all have to have my personal history up to 1975 in order to use the Meta Model and that just isn't the case. There are also introduction courses, Design Human Engineering courses, business and personal consulting, Personal Enhancement Courses, NLP as an application to Hypnosis, Sales courses, etc.

13. Can you recommend some good NLP books & tapes?

    I recommend reading Persuasion Engineering , The Structure of Magic Vol. I, and Vol. II, Time For A Change. Magic In Action II, Using Your Brain For A Change, Patterns of Hypnotic Techniques of Milton H. Erickson Vol I & Vol. II, as well as The Adventures of Anybody. I also recommend reading the texts listed in the bibliography of The Structure of Magic I.

    The tapes I recommend include Patterns of Persuasion, Design Human Engineering , Hypnosis in Munich (unedited), Personal Enhancement Series (The Neurosonics Tapes), The BarbizonTapes, and The NeuroSynchronizer.

Most of these products can be purchased through NLP Seminars Group International's online store: NLPStore.com.

14. How do I find good NLP Institutes?

    See our Institutes listing.

15. What are the roots of NLP ?

    Any references to the early work can be found in the bibliography to The Structure of Magic Vol. I.

    These refer to some of the research that I used to develop NLP . Reading these books with a knowledge of what NLP is will show that they had something but didn't know what, yet. I took a few things from these and other places and formalized them into models which I apply. I would highly recommend reading those texts referred to the bibliography of The Structure of Magic Vol. I.

    Sometimes it seems that NLPers ask stupid questions and the reason why NLPer's seem to ask stupid questions is because The Structure of Magic Vol. I is written backwards and doesn't tell you how to use the Meta Model in order to go somewhere. That's because it was a model of how therapists asked questions. Try reading chapter 4 from the last distinction to the first. That is the proper order.

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ps. thanks to Pak Teddi Prasetya Yuliawan @ Indonesia NLP Society
pps. this article links to
http://indonesianlpsociety.org/
http://www.richardbandler.com/
http://www.neurolinguisticprogramming.com/
http://www.purenlp.com/nlpis1.htm
http://www.purenlp.com/nlpis2.htm
http://www.purenlp.com/nlpresp.htm
http://www.purenlp.com/whatsdhe.htm
http://www.nlpstore.com/
http://www.nlpinstitutes.com/

Tentang... / About...

2008-05-28T08:20:00.002+07:00

Tentang

Soi Qualia = "Soi" dan "Qualia"

Soi [baca:soa] berarti "diri" dalam bahasa Perancis.

Untuk lebih memahami tentang Qualia, mohon untuk merujuk pada wikipedia [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Qualia].

Soi Qualia adalah nama kami... mungkin hanya sebuah nama... dengan sebuah pengharapan besar bahwa di masa yang akan datang kami akan menggunakannya untuk produk-produk dan layanan-layanan yang kami tawarkan.

Self << interpretation adalah tujuan kami secara umum.

Pengertian atas diri adalah hal penting dalam diri kita, yang harus dijelaskan dalam penjelasan yang lebih komprehensif.

Menurut pendapat kami, ketika seseorang memiliki masalah, untuk menyelesaikan masalah adalah tentang bagaimana menentukan atau memahami diri mereka sendiri, untuk mengetahui dan memberikan penjelasan yang lebih mendetil mengenai yang sebenarnya mereka inginkan.

Seseorang merasa mereka memiliki suatu masalah terutama karena mereka merasa ketidakpastian pada diri mereka. Ada suatu keadaan yang mereka inginkan tetapi merasa bahwa hal tersebut sulit untuk diwujudkan.

Hal tersebut adalah bagaimana program di dalam kepala, di dalam pikiran kita, biasanya bekerja... tetapi sekarang keadaan tersebut harus berubah!

Karena bagaimanapun juga kita dapat memasukkan program apapun ke dalam pikiran kita, program apapun yang kita inginkan... dan kita akan menjadi seperti program tersebut dengan suatu keharusan syarat... kita harus melakukan hal-hal yang akan mengkondisikan kita berada di jalan menuju apa yang ingin kita raih and kita harus memperkaya diri dengan sumber daya yang hanya akan menguatkan cara kita untuk mencapai tujuan.

Untuk hal inilah kami membantu Anda untuk mengetahui bagaimana memprogramnya di kepala atau dalam pikiran Anda... dengan metode-metode NLP^TM.

Begitulah layanan kami, yang membuat kami bangga menyatakan "Kita menciptakan realitas kita sendiri, kami membantu Anda menciptakan realitas yang lebih baik!"

About

Soi Qualia = "Soi" and "Qualia"

Soi means "self" in French.

For more understanding of Qualia, please refer to wikipedia [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Qualia].

Soi Qualia is our name... perhaps just a name... with a huge hope that in future we will use it for many of our products and services to offer.

Self << interpretation is our aim in general.

The interpretation of one self is the major part of our self, which should be defining in a wider explanation.

In our opinion, when someone is having problem, to solve the problem is more or less about how to determinate or to interpret of their self, to know and explain what their really want to be.

People thought they were in a problem mainly because they feel of uncertainty on their self. There is a condition that they wanted to be but they were feeling they will not be able to be one.

That's how the program in our head, in our mind, used to be operated... but now that statement should be change!

Because somehow we could program our mind with whatever program our self wanted to be... and we will be with must do conditions... we should do anything to be in our way to reach such condition and we should enrich our self with resources which only be strengthen our mean in achieving the aim.

Therefore you would need our self to know how to set up the program in your head or in your mind... with the methods of NLP^TM.

That's how our service would become, that's why we proudly said "We create our own reality, we help you to create a better one!"

Memperkenalkan... / Introduction...

2008-05-28T08:00:00.002+07:00

Memperkenalkan...

Introduction...

kami sepasang terapis & konselor yang memiliki lisensi praktisi NLP^TM... sekarang, kami siap untuk membantu ANDA [siapapun di luar sana!]...

we're a couple therapist & counselor with Licensed Practitioner of NLP^TM... here, we are ready to help YOU [anybody out there!]...

T: bantuan seperti apa yang kami berikan?

Q: what kind of help that we provide?

J: kami membantu Anda untuk menjadi seseorang yang dapat menyelesaikan masalah di dalam hidup Anda, sehubungan dengan keberadaan diri, kepercayaan diri, hubungan dengan orang lain, masalah percintaan (patah hati atau cemburu atau bagaimana menyatakan cinta kepada seseorang yang Anda cintai, bingung dalam memutuskan pilihan, mempunyai pengalaman traumatik yang ingin dilupakan, mempunyai phobia yang ingin disembuhkan, untuk mengubah kebiasaan buruk atau untuk menentukan tujuan hidup... atau masalah lain apapun menurut versi Anda sendiri...

A: we help people to become a problem solver for their problem in life, regarding to their self existance, self confidence, relationship to others, love problems (heartbreaker or jealousy or how to say love to your love one), confused to make choices, have traumatic experience to forget, have a phobia to cure, to change bad habit or just to determine life's goal... or any other problems with your version of name...

T: bagaimana kami membantu Anda?

Q: how we provide help?

J: kami memberi terapi dan konseling untuk pribadi dan keluarga, menggunakan metode-metode NLP^TM

A: we give therapy and counseling for personal and family, using methods of NLP^TM

T: kapan kami dapat membantu Anda?

Q: when we could help you?

J: Anda yang menentukan... tetapi dengan sangat menyesal, untuk saat ini, kami hanya dapat membantu selepas jam kerja pada hari kerja dan akhir pekan, yaitu antara jam 10 pagi dan jam 8 malam pada hari Sabtu dan Minggu

A: you decide that... but unfortunately right now, we only give service afterhours on weekdays and on weekend between 10.am and 8.pm on saturday and sunday

T: dimana kami membantu Anda?

Q: where we help you?

J: kami melakukannya di tempat kami atau kita dapat bertemu di suatu tempat di tengah-tengah jika Anda merasa terlalu jauh untuk menemui kami

A: we help you at our place or we could meet at some place in the middle if you feel that you go too far to reach us

T: berapa biaya kami?

Q: how much is our tariff?

J: kita akan membicarakannya ketika kita bertemu :D

A: we talk about it when we meet :D

T: siapakah kami?

Q: who we are?

J: kami, Silvia dan Tomi, kami memiliki Lisensi Praktisi NLP^TM oleh Dr. Richard Bandler, kami juga profesional pada bidang bisnis yang lain. Silvia adalah seorang underwriter di perusahan asuransi umum dan Tomi adalah seorang arsitek. kami memiliki ketertarikan yang sama dalam membantu orang lain dan membangun bisnis kami sendiri, sehingga kami memutuskan untuk bergabung bersama menjadi partner di "Soi Qualia" yang kami banggakan...

apabila dibutuhkan untuk menangani sekelompok orang, kami akan membentuk tim sesuai kebutuhan

A: we are Silvia and Tomi, we are Licensed Practitioners of NLP^TM by Dr. Richard Bandler, we are also professionals at others businesses. Silvia is an underwriter of general insurance company and Tomi is an architect. we have the same interest in helping people and building our own business, therefore we decided to join together in partnership in "Soi Qualia" which we are proud of

T: kapan Anda memutuskan untuk menghubungi kami?

Q: when you decide to contact us?

J: pada saat Anda yakin bahwa Anda butuh bantuan kami... kami memiliki kemampuan untuk membantu dan kami membantu dengan hati

A: at the very moment you are sure that you need help from us... we have the ability to help and we help with heart

Jadi tunggu apa lagi? Hubungi kami disini:

So what are you waiting for? Contact us at immediately at:

Silvia - email: de2via@gmail.com

Tomi - email: tomi.hanafi@gmail.com

uuffff...

2008-05-19T13:15:00.000+07:00

emang gak mudah buat bikin layout... walopun tinggal pake dan tinggal edit... tapi tampilannya rasanya aaadddaaa aja yang kurang pas :b

untuk sementara mungkin gak pa2 kali begini dulu... besok2... klo ada ada ide lagi bolehlah diutak-atik lagi... :D

if you happened to be accidently stopping by... "haaaaiiii..." from me... semoga kerasan :D

show your feeling

2008-05-15T13:57:00.002+07:00

in our days, there are low days and high days...

i've learnt from my life that people around us are not sensitive enough to see beneath our body... they cannot really know what's going on within our self
therefore if we want to them to know... either we could tell them or just maybe show them how we feel...

the first way is the easiest... why? because by telling someone or group of people, we could clearly define what we really feeling, we might want sympathy or just understanding...

the second is rather hard... because... sometime people also are not that sensitive to catch our message... maybe just because they just dont care or maybe just because they just dont see that...

for me... these last two weeks have been my low days...

there are lot of things going on in my mind... therefore i should differentiate things that i need to give attention or just ignore

worsen by the weekend when i got so sick... then when i forced my self to come to the office on monday... because there is thing that i should to attend... and those have made me not really recover very well... until today... when i still feeling sick by the way...

though i've been coughing or sneezing so loud... people dont really get it that i've been sick, why? because i'm still working... they just see unfriendly face on me =(

what about if you're sad for whatever reason? do people around you will get it instantly? Nope! They wont.

because... if we're sad, we're maybe look misarable... but overall we just look the way we were at any other time... and there's something in us that just maybe want to show the feeling or even want to hide it... choose it!

if you want to show it... tell people who should know you're feeling about or they might not get it at all

or just hide it, be sad when you are just alone with yourself...
maybe sounded to be harsh... but that's life!
people dont really want to be with sad people, because they have their own sadness, they dont really want to add more with somebody else' sadness...

people here... might be your partner, your love one (family and friends), your colleagues... or just people you meet on the street...

good luck! :D

new blog for a new beginning ^^

2008-05-15T13:53:00.000+07:00

today... finally we set up a new name for our partnership in new little steps of building our business in therapy and counseling...

this is just an introduction... further more we'll be updating with our services or just information regarding to our methods in the therapy and counseling, or just tips and sharing from us

if you bump in accidently here and have curiousity about us, please free to write a line through this site or through our email or even better directly to us at de2via@gmail.com and tomi.hanafi@gmail.com

see you soon! ^^